Baby, let’s talk about our exes

Seriously, why is it taboo to bring up our past relationships, especially in conversations with new interests?

At one point, we mature enough to push past through that eye-rolling, teeth-sucking, “he who shall not be named” phase to be at peace with things of our past. Well, I suppose “maturity” is one of the key elements for this whole idea to work. Mature or not though, there’s no denying that a few positive things can come from our reflections.

Live & Learn 

This saying is way cliche, but it’s the most important to remember when thinking of your past, present, and future. Life is about taking reasonable risks, testing the waters, and being bold. Every opportunity is a learning opportunity to take with you. So, date that person, go out that night, slide in her DMs, step outside your safe place every once in a while to learn what makes you uncomfortable. The deeper you’re able to understand yourself, the more prepared you’ll be for your next relationship and can communicate that effectively.

Self Recognition

Ah, speaking of understanding yourself…
It’s important to recognize certain personal qualities AND REMEMBER THEM!

  • What is your patience level?
  • What are your deal-breakers?
  • Are you biased?
  • Are you open minded?
  • What won’t you tolerate?
  • What mental qualities are you attracted to?
  • How deeply do you care about Religion?
  • What physical traits do you admire from the opposite sex
  • How important is family in your life?

Just a short list of questions that we should familiarize ourselves with when looking for more serious relationships, because it all matters. Like previously mentioned, know thy self before knowing anyone else!

Don’t Compare!

Just keep in mind that everyone is different. Newbies deserve a clean slate despite your biases or preconceived notions. Comparing you new to your old is inconsiderate, tacky, and will make you look bad at the end of the day.

It’s like wearing one old sneaker and one new sneaker at the same time, it’s not cute. (I tried to go somewhere with that analogy, but I feel I didn’t get anywhere lol)

Moving Forward: It’s Ok to be Picky

Obviously you can’t be too picky, because you’ll never find someone “worth” settling down with. It’s ok if your new interest doesn’t check off all the boxes, but make sure they get pretty damn close 😉
Your happiness matters.

 

Written by Jannah B
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Insecurities, the Millennial way

I hate to admit it sometimes, but sure, I’m a millennial. I fall into that group of young people born in the heavily technically influenced world that we are in today. So because of that, we develop new ways to old habits.

Insecurity

Let’s discuss.

Probably one of the most recognizably practiced characteristic of insecurity in millennial relationships are cell phone related. We live our lives through our mobile devices. This I cannot deny! It’s how we communicate. So, when it comes down to our relationships with others, our phones are the first source for information. But, why when we get hit with the,

“Let me see your phone…”

…we freeze and feel offended? An invasion of privacy? Got something to hide? Maybe you find yourself in a mixture of both. Either way, the question comes from the other party feeling insecure. Insecure that there possibly be a chance that something is going on that you are unaware of. Fear of the unknown. Fear of deception. Doubt will always be something in the back our minds, it’s human nature. But, we as humans have the mental ability to forcibly overcome those fears. It takes something called Trust. Easier said than done, of course.

Give someone you trust until they give reason to not have your trust; not a thought, a feeling, or an inkling. If you wonder what your significant other is up to, simply ask. Use your ability to inquire. If you’re told that nothing is to be revealed, let it be just that. Trust. That other person should respect you and the relationship enough not to have anything fishy going on behind those closed doors. See, respect is a big deal in any relationship. If there’s no respect established, there is nothing. Respect is foundational.

Small lesson in respect, sorry for getting off topic lol.

Anyway to sum it up, if your significant other doesn’t respect you or the relationship, there will be doubt and doubt leads to insecurity. BUT when in doubt, simply ask and take it from there.

Have the itch to look through your significant other’s phone?

Thoughts? Comments welcome.

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So about this Shea Moisture Hoopla…

Hey Peeps! It’s Jannah B

I’ve come across some online controversy that involved one of my favorite natural hair care brands; Shea Moisture. This is one of the first brands I gravitated to during my natural hair transition back in 2009/2010. My transition was rough, but I got through it after a year and a half. That’s another story though, so I won’t get into detail.

BUT WE ARE HERE to talk about the recent controversy with Shea Moisture’s recent commercial. Here’s a link to the commercial, if you haven’t seen it already.

Shea Moisture Commercial

OK. So now that you’ve seen what people are talking about, hold tight to your questions, comments, and concerns until the very end of this. Take this all in, then make your Bold Opinions 🙂

Controversy: New Shea Moisture commercial integrates other women without kinky or curly hair. Shea Moisture began by marketing their products for women and men of color, specifically kinky and curly hair textures. Now, in 2017, the company releases a commercial with women with naturally straight, fine hair, talking about their love of the product. Since the release of this commercial, the company has received some negative backlash. *See Below, YES these are real*

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Why I think this is ridiculous: 
1) All you backlash givers should have a few seats.
*offers memory foam cushioned, kente cloth embossed stool, for all you extra woke folks*

Please have a nice long seat because this brand has been around WAY before any of the natural hair became “popular”. I say “popular” because we all know that there was a “natural wave” that popped up bout a decade ago. Some people stuck with it, others didn’t. It’s life.

I saw where people were complaining about SM (Shea Moisture) not being loyal to their customers and that they were becoming “white washed”.
Really -__-

Ok then, well what about the previous commercials and marketing techniques? Plenty of women with “4C” hair types and darker skin complexions in those productions. Bet you haven’t seen those, eh? Just jumped on the bash-bandwagon, eh? Ok so let me point you in the right direction. Check these vids on their Channel
What’s Normal?
#EveryBodyGetsLove
Shea Moisture London Store Launch
Bleached hair care (I recommend skipping to 2:30-5:30)

AND they have men’s products for beard and shave! Are my guys out there complaining since there are NO MEN in any of their commercials?
I thought so. Have a seat.

So now that people see that the brand is trying to expand and offer their products to ALL HAIR TYPES, it’s a problem? Yes, SM started out marketing to the kinky, curly hair types, but guess what… It’s time for growth. Business growth.

2) It’s called Business
Hey, the brand is expanding. It has its foundation, the curly haired customers, and now wants to market to other hair types (AKA be placed in more stores, AKA reach a broader audience, AKA MAKE MORE MONEY, AKA BECOME. AN. EMPIRE.) Let them get their coins!

Why stop a black owned business from conducting business how it should be, by expanding and inducing growth? Marketing is doing a spot on job with their efforts, I think. Maybe should emphasize and incorporate more men in their ads an such, but they will get around to it.
Yes, it’s black owned by Sundial Brands, LLC.
I’m a journalist, I research 😉

Also, since when did the term “natural hair” refer to only the kinks, coils, and napps? The definition of Natural is something that Naturally occurs, right? Without alteration, right? So that could include, just about anything, right? Got it.
I think this goes into the phenomena that “we” like to have “our own”. Which is fine because we are slightly different in ways, but let’s not confuse this idea with selfishness. This is just something to ponder on and could potentially turn into an article of itself.

Let me drop a gem on you right quick. Whether you realize it or not, LIFE is a business. Everything has strategy, consequences, and goals for success/ happiness. Remember that.

All in all, Y’ll need to chill on this backlash and if this product works well for YOU and YOUR hair/skin, continue to use it. Y’all are REACHING!

That’s MY BOLD OPINION.

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Third annual PSAFE event unifies creative community, glorifies black business

By Jannah Bolds

Sounds of music, laughter and network filled the air of a tucked-away, graffiti-covered corner of downtown Atlanta, as the Private Society Arts & Fashion Expose (P.S.A.F.E) kicked off its third annual event this weekend.

PSAFE was organized by four pals, Derek Hardge Jr., Patrick Russell, Corey Smith, and Jawaan Washington, all with congruent visions of bringing support and unity to their community.

Local artists, jewelers, fashion enthusiasts, musicians, and chefs packed their display tables with handmade creations. Just about anything under the umbrella of creativity, could be found at PSAFE.

Two of my most memorable encounters at PSAFE came from a seemingly-introverted hula hoop dancer and an overly-passionate nail boutique technician. Why did these two stick out to me? Both ladies caught my eye because, although their personalities were on opposite ends of the spectrum, they both had the exact same reasons for attending – personal growth.

Not only was PSAFE3 their first expo, but it was their first time talking to someone like me, a journalist interested in what made them special / standout.

(After all, this is The Bold Opinion, right?)

So sure, that itself was personally something special for me. I like to be social and when I get the opportunity to integrate that with my brand, I like to leave unique lasting impression.

Hula hooping Samone, despite her quiet nature, was dressed in a loud tribal two-piece with bright blue, feline-esk  face paint, yellow clip-on cat ears, and a lime green streaked bob to top it all off. Not really having much to say wasn’t a bother, her vibe said it all when she grabbed her hoops and hit the stage!

Samone gets into her groove when the music turns on.

Jazmine, owner of ‘My J Nailz’, embodied the characteristics of a “strong black woman”; neatly bunted dreadlocks, square bifocals, primped, enthusiastically passionate, and ‘bout her business. She educated me on what sets her apart from the other nail shops, because I genuinely had no idea of the difference. She emphasized that she ran a nail boutique with plans to mobilize! Creating personal, friendly, and therapeutic rapport with her clients is very important to keep that unique factor about herself.

These two women stood out the most to me, but that doesn’t even describe a quarter of the amount of talent that was in the building. Comedians, chefs, painters, dancers, designers, you name it! For a complete visual of PSAFE3, visit them at www.PSAFE-atl.com

The crowd at PSAFE3 was very supportive of everyone, I was happy to see everyone being open and lending support to businesses they had no familiarity with. I had the chance to confirm that with two middle-aged sisters, Dennice and Natalie Williams, who were both there to support a friend of the family.

“We love the arts, like theatre, museums, etc., so  this is a little outside the box for us. We are enjoying ourselves, because it’s something different,” said Dennice. “It’s a good celebration of us without violence and negativity. It’s good to see our people come together

Steez Fiends Apparel hosts clothing and accessories for men, women, and children.

The vibe was definitely on! Conversations were flowing, handshakes were common, business cards were exchanged, and photographs were snapping for a strong four hours! This was the whole idea, of course!

“Our goals are to continue to grow into a household named event, deliver quality production, and provide our vendors, participants, and guests with three hours of nonstop entertainment and fun,” said Washington.

If happiness had a sound, I believe this is what it sounded like.

 

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This new phone will change the “Selfie Game”

Major smartphone manufacturer, Vivo has released it’s latest technology for mobile users; the V5 Plus. Of course there’s always new technology releasing, seeming like every other day, but this one might change the lives of a certain group of individuals.

Selfie Addicts Unite!

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That’s right, this new device will be giving Apple and Samsung a run for their money as selfie fanatics will have a field day with the V5 Plus’ 20 megapixel dual front camera!

Although this new device is coming soon to the US, it has already been released in India and Southeast Asia, where it already gaining in popularity!

“The new V5 Plus smartphone inherits Vivo’s rich experience in mobile photography and music, two of the most important ways users express themselves and enjoy their modern lives. We are also setting up seven R&D Centers in Silicon Valley, San Diego, and five cities in China to deliver premium technical innovation in all aspects of our users in 2017,” said Alex Feng, global VP of Vivo.

Here are a list of features this new super-selfie cellphone is capable of:

  • 3160mAh battery
  • 4BG RAM and 64GB ROM
  • 5.5 inch display with curved edges and super narrow bezels for a comfortable touch
  • Charging protection
  • Updated fingerprint technology

There’s no doubt that this device will change the selfie game this year! For more information about the new Vivo V5 Plus, visit their website. Vivo is a global smartphone brand that aims to give its customers the ultimate sound quality and photography experience.

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I love this girl

I love this girl,

But she not feeling me.

I love this girl,

But this love is killing me.

I live this girl,

She is my ministry.

Not sure where to go,

But my goals are clear.

I love this girl,

But I can’t be here.

I can’t lay down and wait,

She’s only another mistake.

I found courage in myself,

Courage to tell her no.

I found confidence in myself,

Shit they’ll never know.

I can’t love this girl,

More is meant for me.

I love this girl,

And it’s killing me.

I love this girl,

But her love not meant for me.

Poem by Micah Lampton, 2017

 

A fond farewell indeed

A fond farewell, indeed, to the most influential beings of my time. Granted, I’ve been alive only 26 years, and an adult only eight of those years. But, there is something significant about that number “8”.

Eight years ago, I participated in my first local and national elections; and what a special first time it was. As small as it may seem though, I made history. Something I’ll be able to tell my grands one day. The day when only monuments and stories linger. People take small things like that for granted.

Throughout these last eight, I’ve seen nothing but the epitome of a leader. A leader who represents the nation from which he was birthed. I couldn’t have been more proud to see everyone (most of everyone) be on one page. Forward.

Forward is what we must continue to do. The Devil is out working everyday, but it’s up to us not to give his ass the time of day!

obamaI hope to continue to see this influential figure make waves nationally and in the community because his legacy will always be remembered. The urgency of “sticking together” has never been stronger.

Thank you Mr. President

 

 

 

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