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all that life consists of

Don’t worry, I can wait.

As we grow into our adult selves, one day or another you’ll be approached with “the question”. The question that is asked only by those who have them. The question that your grandparents ask you every year at the family reunion. See where I’m going with this?

“When are you going to have kids?”

Yesssss….THAT one particular question that gets a blank stare from me every time. A blank stare followed by a “when I’m ready” response. I’m in my mid-twenties right now and happily living kid-free. So, if I haven’t spawned a seed by now, don’t you think I would fall into the “I’m waiting” category. Because let’s face it, the majority of the people my age with children by now didn’t have them on purpose. Name one young adult who was physically, mentally, AND financially equipped to start a family? When I say young adult, I’m talking ages 15-22. Don’t worry, I’ll wait for you to come up with an answer.

There is so much that goes into raising an infant, it definitely takes two, maybe three, or four, AND the grace of God. Money, time, and not to mention sleep. I’m in a selfish stage of my life and I have no shame in wanting to keep it that way for a while until I’m physically, mentally, financially ready.

First, I’m just not ready. Hell, I cringe at thinking about buying a $30 bag of dog food every two weeks; so diapers, wipes and baby food are definitely out of the question at this time lol. Like I said, I’m selfish right now. I want to be able to buy a pair of $235 pair of shoes, drive a sports coupe for a couple years, fly to France on a random weekend, or buy a $1,600 Beyonce concert ticket! Am I wrong? I think not.

Secondly, I’d rather not get sucked into the struggle; and don’t look at the screen like there’s no struggle involved being young and raising a kid. Medicaid, food stamps, section 8 vouchers and, all the other possible ways to take advantage of the government, are fine and dandy temporarily. However, I don’t plan on making it a life style.

*Now, I’m  not putting those people down who get help from government programs. I am simply saying that I don’t want that for my life.

Why? BECAUSE ITS A TRAP!

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That’s it, I’m dropping it all to become a stripper!

Well maybe that headline was a little strong, but I will certainly say that I’ve thought about it jokingly.

Why?

These kind of questions come about when someone, like me, has hit a wall. A wall that can some days seem inpenetratable. I’m talking about breaking into a career. Not just any career, but the career that you set yourself up for. With a college degree and real life experience in the bag, you’d think nailing a job after a couple internships would be a no brainier right?

I’ve come to learn that it’s not just that simple. But why? Why isn’t it THAT simple? I mean, c’mon. We work our butts off in college and prep for internships TO get the degree TO build the resume TO GET THE JOB! That’s what’s frustrating to a young person in a position like this.

Getting turned down two or three times isn’t going to do much damage. But when months turn into years of constant “we regret to inform you” messages, it really hurts. It’s like the world telling you that what you worked your ass off for is not enough. Your degree is not enough, your experience is not enough.

*Let me say something about “not having enough experience”. Well, if I don’t have enough experience, tell me where the hell am I going to get that experience if no one is willing to give me a chance?! If you have the answer, DO SHARE!

When too much time passes, frustrations are high and contemplations get to brewing.

What am I doing wrong? Did I lose my edge? Should I go back to school? Maybe this isn’t what I’m supposed to do. Should I change career paths?

All these questions arise, self esteem decreases, and out of desperation, young professionals start running out of options. But…The motto I’m trying to live by now is:

“When opportunity doesn’t knock, build your own f*cking door.”

Stay tuned…

Choose College

Hey Everyone!

I am not here to convince you to attend college, as you should already know that’s a necessity for life’s successes, but I am here to argue for going “away” for college.  When I say “away”, I mean AWAY, pack your things, move out, and don’t look back! Well, not looking back may be just a bit extreme because you will most likely need your parents sooner than you think.

Why argue to go away to college? From experience I can testify that going away to college is the best experience you’ll ever have in your young-adult life. It’s not just about partying every night, or not having to hear your mom’s mouth about coming in after curfew, or eating pizza and beer for breakfast, it’s about so much more.

College is about recognizing life’s challenges and using them from day one all the way through graduation day. Sounds boring right? It kinda is but it’s something you’ll look back on and nod your head in agreement.

Also while away at college, you get to meet new people and build social skills, learn all about time management, figure out that you can make more than chicken flavored Ramen noodles, and most importantly, learn yourself; what you like to do, are you a morning person, can you share a bathroom with two other people and a cat. Some things may make or break your college career, but hey, you have to learn how to roll with the punches.

All of the above are reasons why going away to college is well worth it, and a must for all young adult minds to mold themselves into college educated adults.

 

Here are a few tips for surviving and getting the most out of your college experience.

  • Register for classes early. As early as you can, to make sure you get the classes your adviser gives you.
  • Take at least 15 hours of courses each semester, this is the key to graduating in exactly four years. Or register for the 12-hour minimum and take a 3-hour course in the summer.
  • Manage your time wisely, showing up late for class and turning in late assignments WILL effect your grades. Also, don’t over book yourself with campus activities, it’s ok to miss a few.
  • The Library is your friend! Go straight here after a day of class to get your work done, that way, you’ll have time to catch that $1 beer happy hour special.
  • Get involved with campus activities, especially the ones you can put on your resume!
  • Invest in a bike. Yes, a bike! It saves you time and get you out of the heat. But, where there’s a bike, there must be a bike lock!
  • Get a job. You’ll be balling at minimum wage, but it helps with your independence. — You’re Welcome 🙂