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Don’t worry, I can wait.

Written By Jannah Bolds
Editor-In-Chief, The Bold Opinion

As we grow into our adult selves, one day or another you’ll be approached with “the question”. The question that is asked only by those who have them. The question that your grandparents ask you every year at the family reunion. See where I’m going with this?

“When are you going to have kids?”

Continue reading Don’t worry, I can wait.

Not Enough Kindness

By Jannah Bolds
Editor-In-Chief, The Bold Opinion

— The Golden Rule — 
“Do unto others, as you’d want others to do unto you.”

Since when did kindness become a lost art? I’m beginning to see acts of kindness praised, glorified, digitally documented, and even overly appreciated. “Overly appreciated” in the sense where people are surprised or confused on why someone is doing something nice for them. Have we become so out of touch or removed from such instinctual human habits that the simplest gestures become the highlights of our days? Not sure about you, but I think it’s pretty normal to just be kind, do favors, or show appreciation to the people you know and even those you don’t. I apologize, in advanced, for the rant, but I’m sure someone’s soul needed to hear this. We’ve got to do better. Continue reading Not Enough Kindness

Baby, let’s talk about our exes

Seriously, why is it taboo to bring up our past relationships, especially in conversations with new interests?

At one point, we mature enough to push past through that eye-rolling, teeth-sucking, “he who shall not be named” phase to be at peace with things of our past. Well, I suppose “maturity” is one of the key elements for this whole idea to work. Mature or not though, there’s no denying that a few positive things can come from our reflections.

Live & Learn 

This saying is way cliche, but it’s the most important to remember when thinking of your past, present, and future. Life is about taking reasonable risks, testing the waters, and being bold. Every opportunity is a learning opportunity to take with you. So, date that person, go out that night, slide in her DMs, step outside your safe place every once in a while to learn what makes you uncomfortable. The deeper you’re able to understand yourself, the more prepared you’ll be for your next relationship and can communicate that effectively.

Self Recognition

Ah, speaking of understanding yourself…
It’s important to recognize certain personal qualities AND REMEMBER THEM!

  • What is your patience level?
  • What are your deal-breakers?
  • Are you biased?
  • Are you open minded?
  • What won’t you tolerate?
  • What mental qualities are you attracted to?
  • How deeply do you care about Religion?
  • What physical traits do you admire from the opposite sex
  • How important is family in your life?

Just a short list of questions that we should familiarize ourselves with when looking for more serious relationships, because it all matters. Like previously mentioned, know thy self before knowing anyone else!

Don’t Compare!

Just keep in mind that everyone is different. Newbies deserve a clean slate despite your biases or preconceived notions. Comparing you new to your old is inconsiderate, tacky, and will make you look bad at the end of the day.

It’s like wearing one old sneaker and one new sneaker at the same time, it’s not cute. (I tried to go somewhere with that analogy, but I feel I didn’t get anywhere lol)

Moving Forward: It’s Ok to be Picky

Obviously you can’t be too picky, because you’ll never find someone “worth” settling down with. It’s ok if your new interest doesn’t check off all the boxes, but make sure they get pretty damn close 😉
Your happiness matters.

 

Written by Jannah B
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